How much do you like talking to others?
In an average conversation
what is your ratio between listening and speaking:
How good are you at providing solutions to the person you talking to?
What is important to you during an argument or discussion?
During a conversation with people the most important thing to you:
How comfortable are you during a conversation?
When someone does not understand what you meant, what is your reaction?
How quickly do you get upset or impatient
during a conversation?
When a friend hurts you, and not for the first time:
When I do not really understand
what the person who spoke to me meant:
When people share with me something they did,
and it seems to me a really stupid act:
How much do you share with others
about what you are going through?
The quality of your conversations is at a very high level!
You're sociable, you like to talk - share - and listen. You are present in the conversation, your listening excels in being honest and true, and the relationships you build are deep and true
Examine yourself how much you really are there for those around you, and how much you allow them to be themselves. Plus - make sure your listening and empathy doesn't come at your expense - that you are not giving up on yourself to be there for others. A true bond is reciprocal, with both parties nourishing it equally.
Either way there is no doubt that your friends and family have won, keep it up!
You have the potential for very high quality conversations, as seen in conversation with close people. Your heart in the right direction!
At the same time you seem to have difficulty in interpersonal communication with strangers, or people with whom you do not feel comfortable enough. In such a case, it seems that every discourse is an effort, that every argument threatens you, that you have a fear of expressing your opinions freely, that it is difficult for you to share what is on your heart or to demand what you deserve.
Is it a lack of self confidence that prevents you from being yourself?
Too bad! You have so much to contribute to those around you and to the world.
You can start with baby steps, choose one case each day to stand on your own. At first it may be hard and forced, but over time it will come naturally!
When you see that your opinion is valued, it will make it easier for you to persevere. Then you will see how well it affects your relationship
good luck
You have tremendous power and energy to move things forward.
The question is - do you recognize this power? And how do you choose to use it?
It seem that you are taking advantage of that power in order to belittle people, mock the weaknesses of them and take over the discourse. Conversation is a tool for you to prove your superiority over others. And often talkes are perceived as threatening you and taking you out of your serenity.
Is that really so?
Be aware that your attitude towards others reflects who you are.
Many people belittle others because they feel insecure, and they mistakenly think that if they diminish others, they appear smarter, better, cooler..
But the truth is the opposite - the more you respect others the more you grow, and diminishing others only reveales your weaknesses.
Ask yourself:
How would I like to be treated, and how do I treat others?
How much do I respect others?
What does my way of communication say about me?
You have great power, use it for good